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30 Tips for Better Sex After 50

Jul 19, 2021

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There are many things in our lives that change as we age, including our sex life. But it doesn’t mean that sex after 50 has to change for the worse.

Challenges linked to medical issues and changing body image can have an impact on the way we have sex, but with these 30 simple tips, we can still take intimacy to the next level well beyond 50.

When it comes to sex after 50, your personal health comes first.

1. Talk to your doctor. The side effects of some medications could be causing you to experience lower libido, erectile disfunction or vaginal dryness. Speaking to your doctor about adjusting your dosage or switching medication brands could potentially do wonders for your sex life.

2. Watch your blood pressure. High blood pressure can cause cardio-vascular problems that can lead to erectile dysfunction.

3. Get some sleep. Getting enough sleep is good advice in general but did you know it has a significant impact on your sex life? Research shows that men’s testosterone levels fall when they don’t get enough sleep which can lead to problems with their erection. Meanwhile, women tend to feel more aroused after a good night’s sleep.

4. Avoiding drinking too much alcohol. Alcohol interferes with your ability to feel sexual stimulation, potentially resulting in men having trouble with their ejaculation and women finding it harder to orgasm.

5. Lubricate. As women age and go through menopause, the vaginal wall tends to become thinner and dryer which, if untreated, can lead to painful sex. Use a fragrance-free water-based lubricant like SKYN Aqua Feel to prevent any reaction while enjoying better sex after menopause.

6. Use vaginal moisturizers. While lube is used during sex, vaginal moisturizers are applied every day (like body moisturizers) to alleviate the symptoms of vaginal dryness.

7. Avoid douching. According to health experts, including those at the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), you should not be douching. This practice can increase vaginal dryness and upset your vaginal flora.

8. Go for a brisk walk. Staying active is essential for overall good health, and for sexual health. Not only can a daily brisk walk lift your mood but being in good shape can increase your libido and make you feel more confident when it comes to getting it.

9. Try yoga or Pilates. Low-impact sports like yoga and Pilates can improve your flexibility which in turn, can lead to you feeling more adventurous when it comes to exploring new positions.

10. Do Kegels. As we age, the pelvic floor muscles tend to weaken which can cause a variety of health issues for both sexes. A daily Kegel practice can help women strengthen their pelvic floor, and even help men overcome premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction by increasing blood flow to the penis.

11. .Draw yourself a bath. If you’re experiencing body pain or are dealing with arthritis, taking a warm bath before getting intimate can help your muscles relax and help loosen inflammatory chemicals in your joints.

Successfully navigating sex as a couple after 50 starts before you walk into the bedroom

12. Communicate with your partner. Telling your partner about what you’re comfortable or uncomfortable with as you age will help make sure you’re both on the same page which will make for a more pleasurable experience.

13. Schedule it. For some couples who have been together for years, sex can often take a back seat in the relationship. Scheduling time for intimacy will ensure it happens, as well as help avoid any frustrations that could arise over time.

14. Have sex at a different time. If you’re used to having sex with your partner before sleep, try having sex first thing in the morning to switch things up. It’ll give you a totally different outlook on the day ahead.

15. Take time away from each other. In any relationship, there comes a time when it seems like you know everything about the other person Taking some time apart can help keep your connection alive and infuse your relationship with some much-needed mystery.

16. Make a sexual bucket list. Write down a list of all the intimate things you and your partner have never tried before but would like to try, then get to work checking them off together. It’s a fun way to continue exploring sex as a couple

17. Share some knowledge. If you’ve read an interesting article about sex, whether it’s a technique or something you’d like to try, share it with your partner. That way they’ll have a point of reference and won’t feel like you are criticizing them.

Having sex after 50 doesn’t have to be boring.

18. Set the mood. If you’re feeling nervous or aren’t comfortable with your partner seeing you naked in broad day light, try mood lighting. Not only will it make you feel more comfortable, but it will also give the room a sensual look.

19. Take your time. If you’re experiencing vaginal dryness, give yourself enough time to build your arousal and feel sensual. Your body will have more time to produce natural lubrication.

20. Make foreplay the main event. If you’ve started to experience pain during penetrative sex after menopause, focus on foreplay activities like mutual masturbation and oral sex. It will give you a chance to explore each other’s desires free of pain.

21. Give your partner a massage. Too much emphasis is put on penetrative sex in our culture, while touches of all kinds can lead to intense orgasms. Try giving your partner a sensual massage and you might just discover new erogenous zones you didn’t know about.

22. Try different positions. The more you get to know what works for you and what doesn’t, the more comfortable you will be during sex and the more you will be able to enjoy yourself. Try to make intercourse easy on your joints with lowimpact positions like spooning.

23. Get on top. If you’re a person with a vagina and experience pain during penetrative sex, getting on top can be beneficial because it will allow you to control the depth of penetration and avoid unnecessary pain.

24. Use a pillow. There is absolutely no shame in making yourself comfortable. Placing a pillow under your back during missionary can help support you and provide an extra layer of comfort. Plus, the elevated position can help your partner reach certain spots better.

25. Get to know your inner clitoris. Most people with vulvas don’t know that there is more to the clitoris than the visible part that stick out above the labia. The interior clitoris extends four inches inside your body, wrapping itself around the vaginal canal. Explore different ways to stimulate your inner clitoris, alone or with a partner, and you may discover a whole new world of orgasmic possibilities.

26. Practice peaking. Also known as edging, peaking is the practice of bringing yourself close to orgasm, stopping for a few moments, and then repeating this stop-and-start pattern until you are ready to orgasm. This technique can lead to longer sex, increased arousal and better orgasms.

27. Use sex toys. Introducing vibrators and other sex toys into your couple’s sex life can spice up your relationship and help the both of you achieve the big O. At first, consider guiding your partner by telling them how you like your sex toys to be used on your body, then feel free to explore together.

28. Focus on your breath. It’s proven that deep breathing promotes relaxation and releases tension, but it has also been shown that the deeper you breathe, the more intense your orgasms can get.

29. Laugh. Sex is meant to be fun, so even if you encounter some issues down there, just laugh it off with your partner. Chances are they’re just as nervous about it. Laughter will ease the tension and you’ll both be able to enjoy yourselves better after.

30. Practice safe sex. It’s not because you’ve entered menopause and can no longer get pregnant that STIs can’t rear their unpleasant heads around. Using condoms and getting tested are great ways to stay safe while getting lucky.