Understanding Enthusiastic Consent

You might have noticed a new sentence on our condom packs: ‘Always ask for consent before engaging in sexual activity. In this post we break it down and discuss enthusiastic consent: what it is, why it's crucial, and how to practice it.

What Is Enthusiastic Consent?

Enthusiastic consent means that all parties involved are genuinely excited and eager to participate. It’s not just the absence of a no, but the presence of a resounding, enthusiastic yes! This type of consent should be:

• Active: A clear and unambiguous agreement expressed verbally or through affirmative actions.
• Mutual: Everyone involved must give and receive consent equally.
• Ongoing: Consent should be maintained throughout the activity and can be withdrawn at any time.
• Informed: All parties should understand what they are consenting to, including any risks or boundaries.

Why Is It Important?

• Empowerment and Respect: Enthusiastic consent ensures that all individuals feel respected and empowered in their sexual interactions. It fosters a culture of mutual respect and communication.
• Clear Communication: It encourages open dialogue about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels, leading to more satisfying and safe sexual experiences.
• Prevention of Misunderstandings: By seeking and confirming enthusiastic consent, misunderstandings and miscommunications are minimized. This is crucial for preventing situations that could lead to feelings of discomfort, violation, or harm.
• Legal and Ethical Safeguards: Practicing enthusiastic consent aligns with legal standards and ethical norms. It helps protect all parties from engaging in non-consensual acts that could have serious legal and emotional repercussions.

How It Works

• Ask Open-Ended Questions: Instead of seeking a simple (yes or no) ask questions like, How do you feel about trying this? or Does this feel good for you?
• Check In Regularly: During any sexual activity, check in with your partner(s) to ensure they are still comfortable and willing. Phrases like Is this still okay? or Do you want to keep going? are helpful.
• Look for Non-Verbal Cues: Enthusiastic consent can also be communicated through body language. Pay attention to your partner's reactions and expressions. Are they actively participating and responding positively?
• Respect Boundaries: If someone expresses discomfort or asks to stop, respect their boundaries immediately. Consent can be revoked at any time, and it’s essential to honor that.
• Educate Yourself and Others: Understanding the nuances of consent is a continuous learning process. Engage with educational resources and encourage others to do the same.

It Takes Two (or more)

Enthusiastic consent is the cornerstone of healthy, respectful, and fulfilling sexual relationships. It’s about creating an environment where all parties feel safe, valued, and excited to share intimate experiences. 

By prioritizing enthusiastic consent, we contribute to a culture of mutual respect and open communication, paving the way for more positive and consensual interactions. For more information and resources on practicing enthusiastic consent, check out organizations like Planned Parenthood or the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.

For more information on consent, visit RAINN's website.